Epic List Fail

If you haven't already heard, me and Matt are looking at phd programs over his spring break.  We have currently driven 1400+ miles over the past 6 days to look at Temple University, Carnegie Mellon university, and the university of Kentucky.  All of the schools have been great each with its own list of pros and cons, but unfortunately none of these schools will put us in the position to live with Jon and Stephanie.  Whatever school/city is chosen, we will be living in that location when I turn thirty.

I had many lofty plans about living in Chicago with Jon and Steph: a house, a garden, living together, supporting one another, sharing resources, becoming foster parents.  It makes me sad that none of those plans will come to fruition at this point.

This is the second time ours plans to live together have been thwarted.  It seems that the universe is just not on our side at this point

I know that one day we will all live together as a happy family. It's just not going to happen before I turn thirty.

I guess the question at this point is do I want to change that list item or accept that there will be at least one uncompleted item on my list?  (Your input is welcomed)